If there’s one day you want to feel, look, and act your very best and feel as confident as can be, it’s without a doubt your wedding day—a day that’s entirely centered around you and the love of your life. But accomplishing this feat is a lot harder than it sounds. After all, this is a day you’ve likely been dreaming about for years, if not as long as you can remember, and you want everything to go according to plan. To help make your wedding-day dreams come true, we asked planners to share their best tips for feeling confident in your role as the bride.
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Hire a great vendor team.
To feel truly confident on your wedding day, you need to know that it’s going to go off without a hitch—and that it’s being handled by professionals you can trust to get their jobs done right. Amy Greenberg of Amy Greenberg Events recommends hiring vendors who you really feel understand you and your vision, can be a calming presence on the day, and who you feel comfortable being your advocate. “Trust and comfort are key with all of your vendors,” she says.
Establish healthy habits early on.
Feeling and looking your best on your big day means taking care of yourself in the months, weeks, and days leading up to your wedding. In addition to eating well, exercising, and drinking plenty of water, it’s vital that you get your rest, especially as the 10-day countdown approaches. Don’t forget to pamper yourself a bit, too! “Manicures, pedicures, facials, and massages are wonderfully relaxing treats,” says Kimberly Lehman, wedding and event planner at Love, Laughter & Elegance. “The overall goal is to give you a healthy, radiant glow on your wedding day, which will show from the inside out!”
If you have a wedding planner, you should be all set in this department, but if you’re handling all the details yourself, it’s vital that you keep track of your checklists and timelines. Additionally, about two months before your wedding, Greenberg recommends sitting down with a couple of your most organized and detail-oriented friends and going through all your vendor contracts and noting deadlines and requirements. Then, start inputting these dates in your calendar with a reminder alert a few days before and on the day of. “Make your day-of timeline with the help of your venue or catering team and emcee, review your venue layout, check-in with all of your vendors, and then make more lists (the list of people who will need a day of timeline, all the things you need to pack when you leave your house for the last time before the wedding, what things you still have left to buy, order, or make, like seating assignments, welcome sign, card box, etc.),” she says.
Love your gown—and feel comfortable in it.
Your wedding day is not the day to squeeze into a gown or outfit of any kind that you feel self-conscious in. When choosing your wedding dress, comfort should be one of the biggest considerations. “You should buy something that you feel amazing in today and not something you have aspirations of feeling good in once you’ve gotten in shape or lost weight closer to the wedding,” says Leah Weinberg, wedding planner, owner, and executive planner at Color Pop Events.
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Schedule engagement photos.
Weinberg always recommend that her couples do an engagement session or a couple’s session with their photographer before the wedding. “It’s less about having the photos themselves and more about getting comfortable together in front of the camera, since most couples haven’t been professionally photographed together and might not know how they best interact in front of the camera,” she says. “Doing a session with your photographer before the wedding will get you more comfortable with your partner and also more comfortable with your photographer.”
Do a hair and makeup trial.
For optimal day-of confidence, you should know what you plan to look like—both in terms of hair and makeup. This is where hair and makeup trials come in handy. “You don’t want to spend the morning of your wedding trying multiple styles and re-doing various looks,” says Weinberg. “You want to go into that day knowing what you want and having tried out that look with your hair and makeup person or people well in advance.”
Surround yourself with positive people.
Whether it’s your bridal party, close cousin, or mom, keep people who relax and calm you close by on your wedding day. Greenberg also suggests finding buffers for the family members who are likely to bring you stress. “If there’s someone who you feel like you have to have present while you are getting ready but fear they will cause you anxiety, ask someone else also to act as a buffer,” she says. “All in all, just make sure that you are surrounded by the people who make you feel like the best version of you and you will feel confidence with ease on your special day.”
Remember to breathe—and smile!
Your wedding day is your day, and one you won’t get back—so make the most of it! “If something is really bothering you, talk it out with your partner, family member, friend, or professional counselor,” says Lehman. “Whatever you do, don’t let a small issue get bigger over time until it seems near impossible to overcome.”