We are thrilled to have been mentioned in an article on Martha Stewart Weddings! Thank you, Jenn Sinrich!
(reposted from www.marthastewartweddings.com)
Ahh, wedding planning. It’s one of the most joyous and exciting times in your life, but it’s also stressful and exhausting. Planning your dream wedding almost always involves working together with your parents (and maybe even your fiancé’s parents) to get the job done. The only thing that can complicate things even more? Who’s paying. “When engaged couples have a certain vision for their wedding, but the parents are paying, there can be some tension involved,” says Kimberly Lehman, wedding and event planner at Love, Laughter & Elegance in Massillon, Ohio. So what exactly do your parents have the say over and what’s left in your control when they’re writing the checks? We asked three wedding planners to weigh in.
Parents do have a say when it comes to venue.
If they’re paying, this is likely the biggest expense they will have throughout the entire process. That being said, it’s important that the couple is happy with the choice in venue. “You may go back and forth about certain aspects of the venue, but ultimately you should come to a compromise,” says Myriam Michel, owner of Boston-based M&M Elite Events. “For example, if the bride and groom are leaning more towards one venue, maybe give the parents more leeway to choose the food you serve.”
Parents don’t have a say in ceremony or vows.
It doesn’t get more personal or intimate than the ceremony and vows. “The support of a couple’s family is of the utmost importance, however, at the end of the day, the couple should decide what they say (and don’t say) in their vows,” says Lauren Chitwood, wedding and corporate event planner and owner of Lauren Chitwood Events in Louisville, Kentucky.
Parents do have a say in the wording of the invitation.
When Mom and Dad are paying, they’re technically the hosts, which means they should be comfortable with the invitation that’s being sent out. “It’s important to work closely with parents on the invitation, as it sets the tone for your wedding and is sent to the entire guest list,” says Chitwood. “I strongly advise my clients to work with a credible stationer to navigate politics of how to word an invitation, especially when divorced families are involved.”
Parents don’t have a say in the attire of the bridal party.
The bride’s wedding dress and the bridesmaids’ dresses are personal decisions. While they often end up being a collective decision because the bride wants input from her friends and family, she’s the only one who should have final say here. “The bride should be able to choose the dress she wants and how she wants her bridesmaids to look on her wedding day,” explains Chitwood. “That being said, I’ve never to see a bride make this decision alone—ultimately, parents, family and friends help her decide on attire.”
Parents do have a say with the wedding guest list.
“I think it’s important that hosts have a strong say with the length and composition of the guest list, however, the couple has the right to determine the size and scope of their wedding,” explains Chitwood. In other words, if the couple wants a small, intimate wedding, the hosts should grant that wish. “Inviting business contacts and family friends can be very important to hosts but doing so should not dramatically go against a couple’s wishes on wedding size.”
We are giving away a FREE Day of Coordination Package to one Lucky Couple! May be applied to any wedding in 2017 or 2018. All you need to do to enter, is send us a brief essay of 300 words max., of why you should be chosen. Please email entries to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Contest is limited to weddings in Ohio, and immediate surrounding states. Entries must be in by midnight, April 1st, 2017. Winners will be announced by April 3rd, 2017. Those who are not selected as the winner of the Free Package, are still eligible for an offer of a discounted price on above stated package, or any other services that we offer. Good Luck!
Educating yourself about a wedding planner (or consultant or coordinator), and what they do, is quickly becoming a required part of planning a wedding. Many couples these days are planning long distance affairs, or have demanding work schedules that do not allow for endless meetings with vendors and locations for their wedding. Often, couples have to make decisions quickly, and without as many choices of locations, materials, or referrals of vendors as they would really like. This is where the knowledge and practical experience of a wedding planner becomes invaluable.
Perhaps you have already heard or read some reasons why it is beneficial to hire a coordinator. It’s true that we wear many hats in this industry. We must be able to take on a wide variety of duties in order to serve the needs of our clients. We are able to recommend vendors and service providers that we have worked with before. We also help a client stay within their budget, often saving them money, and may advise them on wedding etiquette questions. We can help clients shop for their wedding attire, as well as that of their wedding party. We generally coordinate all of the client’s plans. Of course, the biggest service we provide is to keep your rehearsal, wedding day and reception on track. But I believe the most valuable service we provide is that of stress relief. We are there to lift the burden from the clients’ shoulders, whether it is just making sure that the vendors have all arrived on time and are setting up the party to specifications, to calming any last minute nerves and offering words of encouragement. We take care of any details that our clients wish, from just a sounding board when they are starting to plan, to searching out the best deals on locations, vendors, and materials. We are the people that pick up the ball and run with it, to paraphrase a sports metaphor. Our only job is to make sure our clients are completely happy, and that the event goes off flawlessly!
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We have been blogged! This time, with one of our videography partners, Joseph Testa Films. We first met Joe on Facebook, chatting on several occasions in different wedding planning and industry-related groups. When the opportunity came up to plan a destination wedding for one of our couples, Azia and Hondo, on relatively short notice, Joe and his wife Peggy happily agreed to assist us with videography for the wedding. They did a fantastic job! We highly recommend Joe for all of your video needs!
Since then, we have collaborated at several bridal shows, and often promote special deals with each other, in order to maximize value, while not sacrificing quality of service, for our clients. We also co-administer several wedding message groups together on Facebook, providing planning advice and resources for brides and vendors.
Recently, Joe sent us a short questionnaire, using the answers to create a feature about our business. Below is the link to the post on Joe’s blog. Enjoy!